1. When I tell my boys I am transferring, do I also mention that I cannot stay when the W isn't interested? Or do I say that I have tried all I could while in the country, but have come back for them (my boys)? Or not mention the W at all, just simply say I am coming home?
Don't mention W, make it all about the boys. You're coming back for them, because you miss them and want to spend more time with them. I mean it's the truth, but they may not know it. So tell them. WAS's need to be shown actions, not words, but that doesn't apply to your boys. They need words backed up by actions.
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2. Should I tell the W about the transfer? If so, how should I mention it? Letter, email, phone (though she probably wont answer) or organise a face to face meeting?
Do your boys still live with W? If so, I'm sure as part of this you're hoping to see them more. That will no doubt involve some coordination with your W. I would let her know. Just send her an email and keep it brief- "just wanted to let you know I'm relocating back to the area". That will break the ice for further communications later regarding the boys.
