The squirrel analogy I remember well and it is fitting, AS I think?
"If you try to feed a squirrel by hand, you have to hold perfectly still. It will slowly come to you, but even if you don't move, it will sometimes get scared and retreat. But it will return and get a little closer each time. If you get impatient and make any move towards it, it will quickly run the other way and the entire process starts all over again from the beginning. But if you remain patient, it will come closer and closer until it will finally reach out to you."
I didn't come up with the original concept, I wrote the above after hearing a lot of people say "it's like feeding a squirrel"
Originally Posted By: PatientMan
4) I seem to have trouble actually saying that I'm divorced to people out loud. Not to people who already know, but to people who don't. It's interesting because it isn't that I care what they think, it's just that I don't want to talk about it. So people will reference my "wife" and I just don't correct them. Or I'll refer to her by her name.
Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. I'm not D'd, but after over a year of S it seems odd to hear her referred to as my W. So when people say something about my "wife", I almost feel like I need to correct them and let them know we haven't lived together as H and W for quite some time. But I don't, I just let it go. Feels strange though.
