I'm impressed 3boyzmom with how far you have come in a week!

Most of your story hit home with me about losing myself in my M and being an unhappy person. I agree it has felt wonderful to feel like me again and know I can be that way without needing H's approval or reactions.

I no longer cry everyday either, and if I start it doesn't last for more than a few minutes and I don't let H see. It feels great to be in control of myself, like you said, being the better/bigger person...and being HAPPY.

Good for you for setting goals for yourself, and the reward of a spa day is awesome incentive.

Keep posting! We are here for you.

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.