He said that for awhile now he hasn't really felt "needed or wanted" by me. He said that he wishes I would initiate ML more because it makes him feel like I want him as a "man" (GOOD call Pud!).
This is exactly how I think my H feels about me right now, that's how I knew. I know I have made him feel not wanted/needed or manly at all during the past few years, hence why he needs OW to make him feel that way.
And it sounds like you had a great positive with him opening up to you. I think that is wonderful. That is such a great start! There will be many more ups and downs but count your positives!
Don't let that clamshell snap all the way shut, at least now you can see part of the pearl!
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
I know I have made him feel not wanted/needed or manly at all during the past few years, hence why he needs OW to make him feel that way. 
