Confusion = MLC and yes she sounds like she is cake eating.
Do you need to be mad and angry to be dark? I guess I dont understand that.
Cadet, I don't need to be angry to be dark, but I am confused about how I can stop her from cake eating while still being agreeable, showing my PMA, and not come off as being cold.
Specifically, when she comes in 15 minutes early to pick up kids and plops down to chat with me, what should I do?
One of my boundaries was this: if you file for D, then I am no longer your buddy. Meaning; no cake eating. But it seems I am already allowing it.
I am not even sure that being dark is a good idea in my case. W's love language is quality time, and that makes it easy to make her feel loved by me with no pressure or ILY's . All I have to do is talk to her and she gets a fix. She literally lights up when she talks to me. Do I risk quashing that? Seems like a lot of guys here would like to have this problem. I think the objective is to be perceived as her best option once she stops Replaying with OM and her playing young routine.
On the other hand, I think I want her to feel emotionally isolated so that her inevitable and coming crash has a better chance of pushing her back to reality. And to me. She is in the early Euphoria of MLC/separation excitement, so I am expecting a crash fairly soon.
Unless she is truly going to be happier without me. In which case I am scr3wed either way.
It's a tough puzzle to figure. How dark is dark, and what does it look like specifically?
Me:52 Wife:49 Married 19 years Son:16 Daughter:14 Bomb dropped with ILYBNILWY: May 2013 Wife moved out 2Jun13
