Thank you my forum friends!

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Thanks again! I just checked out the mentor quote from Wonka, and it makes sense. So basically they are more emotionally fragile right now so it is important for me to be more sensitive, nurturing and supportive to him, and STFU on my own pain and resentment for now. Makes sense to me. It looks like I've got my work cut out for me for the next little bit. Thankfully, I am have a bit of free time to get myself organized and think about some things.

What has me most worried about this new development is the feeling that he will bolt. I will also try to remember that famous squirrel metaphor

Have you ever tried to feed a squirrel?
The best way is to hold out your hand with the food and be perfectly STILL.
Any sudden movements towards her or away from her will scare her away and send her scurrying away.
Shouting at the squirrel and telling them to come get the food wont work either.
Patience and TIME is the only way you will ever get the squirrel to eat out of your hand.