Bright, I think the best thing any of us can do is just let them go and create a life for ourselves. Do things you've always wanted to do, begin new a new hobby, learn a language really delve into something that is YOURS.

After "The Temp Check" last year, I was ready for the D. I took my ring off, I'm sure I wrote about that, and then he quit wearing his and that really sealed it. We were still friendly when we did see each other but I became free-er, if that makes sense. I was better than OK, my life was good and I knew that it would be what I made of it, nothing depended on him at that point.

People get freaked out about limbo but I never felt that I was in limbo because I was always moving forward.

Once you're able to shift your focus from the Spouse to you, things really turn around.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss