One giant leap forward! - Part 7

[labug]

What was your response to her proposed schedule change?

And yes, you probably do need a legal custody agreement.

[T1000]

When she proposed it she was spewing massively. It's very hard to decipher what she is actually going to do or if it's a threat at the time. I would be arguing over theoretical things all the time if that was the case.

Many things she has said while spewing that never happened, this isn't one of them times.

[labug]

I guess not.

Looking back do you see a way you could have gotten the info you needed and been able to make arrangements for the kids?

You've come a long way T, but you have to take charge of you. I know I keep saying that, and I know it's sometimes hard to do.

But that's the only hope for any of us. To be in control of our lives and that includes not allowing her (or anyone) to control you.

You know she's going to get angry and "spew" so don't let it throw you but also don't ignore what she's actually saying. Then clarify what you think you've heard.

I'm sorry, I know not seeing your S on his BD will be difficult but you have alternative plans, it will be fun. You'll know it's not his BD but he won't. He's the important one.

[sandi2]

How are you doing, T?

[T1000]

Hi Sandi,

Thanks for checking up on me.

I'm doing pretty good. Not been on the forum much lately.

I met someone on Facebook and we have been chatting all week. She seems very nice.
I keep it in the back of my head that I don't want a relationship right now. I think keeping myself grounded is letting me see things from multiple perspectives.
Something I have noticed is my sitch isn't at the front of my mind anymore. It's more like I have to think about what I used to worry about and then it comes back to me.
Getting attention from this woman has made me realize what it is probably like for the WAS who is in an A.
It also made me realize somethings that I wasn't getting from my W and also somethings my W did that I didn't/don't like were quite normal.

I went out for GAL last night with a friend of mine and I met her where she was working. Very nice in person too.
Later on I was talking to another girl I know and she was warning me off her, saying she's very promiscuous. There is a good chance she is correct, it doesn't take much to turn the conversation sexual.
I will keep that in mind, I've got admit i was disappointed to hear and it made me realize I liked her maybe more than I wanted to in the first place.

I'm finding the uncomfortable feeling I used to get when going out is nearly gone. PMA bursting from the seems. One thing my W taught me is how to dress well. I was by far the best or classy dressed guy that I saw out last night, that also boosts the PMA somewhat. Someone also guessed my age as 23

Text W on Friday to ask if I could Skype the kids within the next few days. She never answered. Saturday afternoon she asked if I wanted to then so I did. It wasn't for long (about 7 mins) but it was good and the kids were glad to see me. W asked me if i had my haircut and then later asked if I was joining a boyband because it was sticking up.
I find when I'm there or Skyping the kids I'm so not interested in W. I don't want to converse with her if I can help it.

I realized the other day when I have been looking at the D with W we weren't including her car as an asset which in theory means if she wants to keep it that may give me some extra leverage.

When I was out last night my friend was texting some woman he met. Long story short he told her that he didn't want to see her anymore and they were arguing.
He was showing me all the conversation and it helped me see how far I have come in my own communication. They were arguing over who should delete whos number first and so on. It just seemed so petty and each person had to have the last word. The funny thing is I beleive a lot of people work this way it's not just them.

I GAL'd until late last night I have nothing but sleep in and chillout. Feeling very lazy and relaxed!

I think that is about it for now. Thanks for reading.

[hotwheelsaust]

T1000, great to hear about your fantastic weekend.
I thought I had replied about your sons birthday situation, but cannot see it. My two cents worth: at this age the kids don't really worry too much about when the day of birthday is being celebrated, as long as it is celebrated. Therefore simply have a great party for your son when it is your weekend, he will still appreciate it.

[T1000]

Thanks HWA, yes that is how I see it too.

[T1000]

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