I agree about your book idea. I think many times people move on to a second marriage and bring the same 'ol problems with them and wonder why the new marriage is failing. For sure DB'ing helps with that. We are taking control of our behaviour and taking accountability for our actions. You are right, it is easy to put the blame on the other person. Hopefully we can come out of it in the end with a fair perspective on everything.
Chicken or Egg would also be a great title for a book I am not sure what context you were using that expression, but I think of that "chicken or egg" question a lot in different scenarios. For example, my H thinks that I don't trust him. Now is it that I don't trust him because he seems to be pulling away from me and I am wondering why, or is he pulling away from me because he feels that I don't trust him?
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
I am not sure what context you were using that expression, but I think of that "chicken or egg" question a lot in different scenarios. For example, my H thinks that I don't trust him. Now is it that I don't trust him because he seems to be pulling away from me and I am wondering why, or is he pulling away from me because he feels that I don't trust him?