glad to hear you're hanging in there- sure sounds like your H is immersed in "himland". it's wierd isn't that they are the guys with alllllllllllllllllllll the issues and traumatations they are spreading around (on us) and we're the guys "paying" and they get to be all needy & disabled. (me in merci-less mode) idk- how all that works, i'm with you that we should be able to just sit them there and yell til our heads fall off.
only problem is - much like mwd says in the book- their faces would merely glaze over and they would "tune it out" and it would all be "for naught". early on- i could see h's face and it was true. now (two years down the line) we occasionally have a mini-conversation that does not turn out confrontational and awful- . not necessarily productive, but not a "fight" either. (and i'm talking "mini" - like a few lines from me about what i'm feeling or thinking.
it's pretty sad, all things being considered - but i guess the way it is.
anyway- good luck and carry on. sounds like you're still surviving and hanging on.
