Wife said she was done! House sold, Moving forward

[Maritimer]

I discovered a 1987 gem from Tom Petty called "It'll All Work Out"

"When she needed me I wasn't around
That's the way it goes, it'll all work out

There were times apart, there were times together
I was pledged to her for worse or better
When it mattered most I let her down
That's the way it goes, it'll all work out"


I cried then had a feeling of relief. I regret deeply that I was not their when she needed me the most. Like most of us here we know what we would have done different but you cannot change the past, only learn from it.

Im wondering what can I do differently. I never receive emails, text or phone calls from her. She seems to be shutting me out completely from her life. Should I make an effort to reach out or continue with minimal communication? Been doing great following the 37 rules, no relation talk since February and that was "I still dont want to be with you".

I understand that DB'ing is for me, & it has helped me tremendously, but our ultimate goal would be to reunite with our spouse.

Is their anything different I can do here? I will continue to be patient, keep a PMA, give her distance as much as i can but still see my children, and work on self improvement.

What else can I do?