Me 11 months on.

[hotwheelsaust]

Thanks F and TTD180. Your answers are the way I was thinking about those questions. Again amazing how our change happens in the sitch's.
I am sure once the boy's know I am transferring, then she will be told by one of them. That is fine. They do know I applied many months ago for the transfer.
With regards to talking to the boy's about why the transfer, I don't want to put any blame on the W. But I do kind of want to state my position in this sitch and how I have tried so many different ways. Yes, I agree I shouldn't still say anything, it is just that horrible sense of feeling that if one of the boys ask many years down the track, it is only then that they might understand what I have tried to do. I get the feeling at this time, it is simply "mum left because of dad" and that's it.

*****But don't worry, no talk to the boys about anything other than the transfer. No discussion why I am not staying, nor discussion about the W**********

I am getting so much better at all of this now. Still sad, still sorry, still wish the W would do something....anything, but also realising the reality of our marriage.