Me 11 months on.

[Fartiltre]

These are just questions in my mind, not things that I necessarily want to do now. Just thinking ahead.

I believe that planning and thinking ahead is a good thing so IMO just keep on doing that!

1. When I tell my boys I am transferring, do I also mention that I cannot stay when the W isn't interested? Or do I say that I have tried all I could while in the country, but have come back for them (my boys)? Or not mention the W at all, just simply say I am coming home?

I wouldn’t mention W at all! As I have read you: You are looking forward to coming back to the city, your house, your bike and so on but most importantly your boys.
Every time you mention W in front of your son’s you risk putting blame on her. If you mention W not being interested you are doing exactly that. Don’t go down that road.

2. Should I tell the W about the transfer? If so, how should I mention it? Letter, email, phone (though she probably wont answer) or organise a face to face meeting?

IMO No! If she contacts you then tell her otherwise don’t. She will know shortly after you tell this to the world anyway.
If at some point you tell her then remember that you did this for you, to move on with your life – not because she hasn’t shown interest yet.

Stay on the path!


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