Pregnant h wants a divorce after deployment

[planet]

How do you detach?

This is what 25yearsmlc wrote on my thread:

The "secret" is to become the best person you can become, which means you will be happier in the long run, no matter what your w does. Truly believing that you are going to be fine, regardless, gives a confidence that many find attractive.

It's a paradox in a way.

Believe YOU are going to be FINE.
Whatever H does or doesn't, do not affect you in any way. You still breathe. You are not going to stop living.

Believe me, no one can give you an answer to detachment.
But please hold on to what 25yearsmlc has to say, it will take you somewhere better.

I'm not fully detached yet but i have forgiven myself. I realize that carrying that load around is slowing me down. This does not mean that i have forgotten my faults and flaws. I'm happier as a result.

I hope this helps.