Our best car got totaled while parked by a very high driver....NOT what I needed, we didn't need a car payment just as an older loan was finally about paid off....but it is what it is.
Got a new (to us) vehicle, after an interesting exchange...I did a mix of "executive decision" and listening, validating her input. I kept the cost, and loan payment very "nice", so we will still get a wee bit ahead as the old loan is finally paid off.
W really seemed touched or something when I just handed the key to her "as if" all is normal and okay. I said "here ya go babe"
W comes home, big smile and says "it's beautiful...". I just said "like its newest driver" and walked away back to my business in the garage...
I think it (and maybe me) might have gotten good reviews from her co-workers...that smile had a "approval of others" tinge about it, maybe, maybe not.
Her and the kids have always had the most reliable and safest vehicles our whole M, and that part of me isn't about to change. Ever.
Interesting that she has been both a bit closer, yet cycled to a bit of distance, man this "stage" is tough...I have had to talk myself down from saying "well, are you staying or going, this is getting old already?" a couple few times, lmao at myself...I do know better.
Anyway, just doing my "aloof, yet available" and "STFU" idiom, good thing I don't have to work at it too hard anymore...it's rather sticking to the new+old me. It was suggested to me to make that into a bumper sticker for MY vehicle, lol. Thinking about that seriously.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
