Okay, incorporating T's advice to say how I felt (d cannot disagree with how I felt, and using "I" makes it direct):
"XXX – I felt sad and irritated by your mail. Irritated because I felt bossed around, and sad because you were telling me I couldn’t do something - completely insignificant - that I wanted. I am bringing home some salsa (which to my knowledge does not harm you) just because I want to. Yes, we have plenty of hot sauce. I think you will find that being polite when making requests produces better results than what you wrote. "
Sandi2 - this was not intended as a present for daughter, but as a kitchen supply. Swedish "salsa" is horrible, tasteless, goop. D is getting dried cherries and almond M+Ms, which she adores, and which you can't get in Sweden. My love language is gifts.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
