Acc, the anxiety thing is pretty significant. For me it was a sea change in counseling when i realized he wasnt as supremely confident as he acted. Youre right, a lot of my resulting anxiety went away when i realized the issues were his, not so much about me.
But when he's got the angry eyebrows, rolling eyes, sarcastic voice and chopping hand gestures going, its hard not to feel like he really does believe youre a complete moron.
Being a night in shining armor is an important part of his identity, but then after a while he resents and belittles the ones he rescues. Confidentially, one of his favorite jokes with the kids when they were young schoolage was to insist when he came home that he was really superman and his job was saving people. In addition, he took to wearing dogtags night and day, "because he's a runner" but almost like he wished to be mistaken for a soldier.
I just hope he ends up ok. I feel ok myself, usually. I STILL think now and then that he'll snap out of this and want to come home, crazy that seems.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
