LJC, I cannot advise you what to do, as I am in the same boat literally to the same dates as you. I have been thinking about should I contact the wife on the anniversary of BD and ask what.......I don't knnow.
But like you, I wonder if she is simply waiting at times for that magical something I need to do.


ME:51 W:46
M:25
S:22, S:20
Divorced 16/9/15
BD 10/12
W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12.
Dark since 6/13
I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.