Me 11 months on.

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Thanks TTD180. It is still very mixed emotions, as much as I know the separation is all her choice, it still feels like I have chosen to walk away from her with this transfer. I am not focusing on it as being me the one to walk away, just simply an emotion around it.
I would have stayed if there was a glimmer of hope from her. But with no contact from her for so long, I cannot make the choice to stay, but to move on and make me a better person. To also spend more quality time with my sons.

In saying that, just a few questions to everyone.
1. When I tell my boys I am transferring, do I also mention that I cannot stay when the W isn't interested? Or do I say that I have tried all I could while in the country, but have come back for them (my boys)? Or not mention the W at all, just simply say I am coming home?
2. Should I tell the W about the transfer? If so, how should I mention it? Letter, email, phone (though she probably wont answer) or organise a face to face meeting?

These are just questions in my mind, not things that I necessarily want to do now. Just thinking ahead.