If you then don't do as instructed or worse yet argue it makes his anxiety worse and he gets disproportionately angry. Let me know what you think. The White Knight thing fits in this context as well. Let me know what you think. Not much you can do about it other than recognize it for what it is and that it really doesn't have much to do with you.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015