Just read your updates and also your post from a year ago. I see lots of similarities with my sitch. It ‘s been 15 months since the BD for me and we only spoke a few times on the phone and even less face to face. He also made no move to end the M even though we had a conversation about it back in April. He also wanted to be happy and I had a lot of negativity in me, so he didn’t want to live with it. According to him he is done and moving on with his life. Almost everything you wrote in the post from last year can be applied to my H. He also said multiple times that he didn’t want to hurt me. And now, we are doing this dance (which I’m starting to think is typical MLC behavior) when I start to be more verbal and nice in my replies to his e-mails, he goes back into his hole and gets silent for a while. He might think that I still have hope for a R and he doesn’t want to give it to me. When I become silent too, he re-appears.
I’m also a different person these days and I know that I’ve done (and still doing) all these changes for me. You are such an inspiration for me. I also have some difficulties in writing and sharing things here. I understand it, but please keep posting. I learn so much from you.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
