I'm talking about your expectation that if she's nice to you that means she's moving toward you. The expectation that if you do something nice for her, she will then be nice to you. The expectation that if you act a certain way it will draw you closer.

There's a 12-Step saying, Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.

Let go of those expectations.

Your views on marriage seem more like a value but it would be an expectation if you thought W should share that value. She might, she might not but we can't expect others to be just like us.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss