FWIW, you said you wanted to get a dialog going. Reading the transcription of that text exchange, the only part I read a "jerky" was "All you had to do was answer the question."
I think the rest of it set you off because you were reading disrespect or disregard into it, and maybe you were right to do so based on your history with H and how well you know him, but as a third party at face value, I'm reading messages from a guy with some anxiety issues trying to cope with his anxiety over a misplaced uniform and missing money and not much else.
When someone is really anxious, they feel very unpleasant when things are "out of control" from their perspective, and regaining control becomes front and center, so he may seem to be treading on your emotions willfully when all he's really trying to do is beat back the anxiety dragon.
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