Thank you so very much. I sent the revised message based on your suggestions and he wrote back saying that he was happy to receive my response. Then he called. I just hung up from him. He almost started in on me immediately asking why I didn't respond to messages from last week. I DID NOT accuse, or try to protect myself.
I just said that I was sorry about that and he seemed to settled down. Then he said that he wasn't sure what I was doing or thinking because I was not communicating. He wants to know my every move it seems maybe to keep an upper hand in all of this?
So I validated him. We talked about the listing he sent in his response. It was a short list and I was getting prepared to hang up, but he still wanted to talk. Said he we each need to move forward and then he asked how I was doing. I said okay, I asked about him and he said somewhat ok. Said he is not sleeping well, and that he is ready to move out of his best friends place into his place.
Not sure if this was true, but he said he is going to spend time by himself but that he was positive about his decision (he just offered that up - I did not ask). Then he asked if we could talk about the PSA. I said maybe we could arrange a time to discuss. He he offered up Sunday or Monday after he moves into his apartment.
Then it was like he wanted to say something more because he said we can still talk if you want (because he had another hour on the road). Normally he DOES NOT want to even hear my voice. So I just said that I had to get going. He said that he would talk to me later this week, and we hung up.
I was proud of me for not crying, I was strong in both voice and thought.
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Me: 44 Him: 51 Married: 9 years Together: 14 years
