Second MLC?? Is that possible?

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H is 50, I am 60. We’ve been together for 19 years, married 15 years. I have two grown children, he has none.

H and I went through this about 7 years ago when he succumbed to a one night stand in Russia and decided he wanted to throw out his life here and move there to see if “things would work out with her.” He gave all the typical signs of MLC but I was patient, took care of myself and he eventually came to his senses. I got a lot of good guidance from this site.

We’ve moved since then and have a successful business. We import most of our products from India and that required a lot of travel there. I accompanied him on a few trips, but one of our male employees went with him on most – until this past year. The quality of our products was deteriorating, so we decided to open our factory over there and just make it ourselves – the “if you want it done right” theory.

That has required H to spend a lot of time there and he has traveled mostly alone. I stayed here to keep the US operations going.

He has spent more time there this year than at home and has gotten an apartment, furnishings and a car. He has created a new circle of friends that he parties and drinks with all the time and has become involved with OW there. Essentially, he has established a completely separate life there – the bachelor life.

During his last “visit” home, I got the “I’m not happy” speech again – he hates everything here, doesn’t feel needed, I never let him do what he wants, he doesn’t have a social life, etc. The same MLC speech I got 7 years ago. He treated me like absolute crap,, changed his plans and left to go back ahead of schedule – I was actually relieved. I sent a long email stating that I am not responsible for his unhappiness and will not let him beat me down like he did last time. I asked him to move out when he returned.

I got a lot of long emails asking that I meet him somewhere neutral to start working things out and telling me he wanted in his life, we made a good team, blah, blah, blah. He lied and said it was over with OW, but I know better – for a fact.

He has gone completely off his rocker – wants me to buy him of the US business, wants me to sell the house, etc. His whole family and most of friends think he’s completely lost his mind. My biggest concern is the business here, my interest in it and protecting our employees from his insanity.

Is it possible for someone to have a second MLC? Or, is this some kind of mental issue?