FY, I have every hope that your marriage will turn around and yes, your w's love for you is buried deep within her very soul. Until the depression lifts and she's resolved her issues, that love will remain buried. As she resolves her issues, that frozen love will eventually begin to thaw again and slowly but surely things will turn around.
FY, what happened to your w happened a long time ago and it's going to take some time for her to resolve those issues. Give her that gift of time and space, be patient and understand that when you are willing to be patient, it is well worth that wait.
I ask that you continue to live your life and do not try to put a time limit on her growing up. Learn to accept her for who she is today and trust me, if she wasn't happy w/the way things are going, she would have left a long time ago.
Patience, my friend!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
