Looking for New Options If H Wants Divorce

[25yearsmlc]

Here is my first draft for a response to him. Comments?:

Husband

I will not be making any rash decisions about my future. Therefore, if you wish this divorce to be amicable, you would be well advised to stop bullying me while I catch my breath. I would like to get a PSA in place by the holidays.

I am going to take my time to research my choices and the more you pressure, the less likely I am to cooperate with you or even stay in contact with you.

Please remove your illusions that I want to be married to the man you are.

I am taking my time AND MY LAWYER IS REVIEWING IT. to grieve the man you killed off, that I loved, who was good and kind - I recognize he is lost and I'm coming to terms that he is not coming back.

There are still components of the PSA that we need to BE discussED to make it all fair and equitable. H, I ACCEPT YOUR DECISION. I AM NOT PLAYING GAMES TO STALL THIS DIVORCE. IT SEEMS LONG TO YOU I KNOW, BUT FOR ME A LOT OF THIS REALLY IS NEW. I JUST NEED TO KNOW MY INTERESTS ARE PROTECTED, AND THAT TAKES SOME TIME.

Say nothing unkind to him if you are trying to show him a new you.

This interaction is an opportunity for you to show him a woman of strength and dignity. Not a woman who lashes out and insults or makes snide remarks.

His letters are all polite to you, no matter how hurtful you feel they are. He is TRYING to be amicable. You must act the same. Even if you don't feel it.

Show him the new you.