2.25 Years, Moving Forward

[jp787]

I mean, my mother was hypercritical too. It became obvious to me that if she was so concerned about what my hair looked like, it must be because she felt like someone might be judging her based on her daughter's hair, and that bad feeling to her was more important than the bad feeling she was giving me about myself.

So I became oppositional-defiant and threw all her and my dad's input out the window whether it had merit or not.

Worked for me as a teenager but didn't do much good when I applied the same technique to my marriage.

You found in your H what your mother gave to you. I'm glad you are seeing the truth now, your better than what you were shown.