JP I totally get that being hypercritical is tied to low self esteem. I learned this from my mother. I noticed it in my H and submitted myself to much deriding and belittling in order not to make my H feel worse because clearly although he was handsome and smart and successful,
people who are happy in themselves hold their loved ones up.
they do not tear them down.
I felt bad for him, and I felt so strong that I could take it and be fine. But I wasn't fine. And even if I was fine, I deserved better. And his inability to get help looks like selfishness to me now.
My W to a "T"
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
