Try to be objective here...does your draft email come across as angry, petulant, downer to you? Does this type of communication bring you closer to the goal? No? Right.
You want to appear cool, calm and collected in your communications with H. Best to keep emails short and fact-based. Try using what I call my Spock-talk by keeping your emotions at bay and just talk facts only. Focus on the nuts and bolts of the asset division.
Strength...is it true that the mortgage is in H's name only? Not joint holders of the mortgage?
Here's a suggestion: ________________________________ H,
Thank you for your email. I am sorry that you feel disappointed and can understand why you might feel that way.
I appreciate you letting me know that you'll be contacting the utilities to cancel them and I'll follow up with them to transfer them to my name.
In regard to the cost sharing of the mortgage, what do you have in mind?
Before picking up any items from the house, I would ask that you please write up a list of items that you want for the apartment and send it to me. We both need to come to an agreement on this point to ensure that these are sorted out satisfactorily for us. After we've agreed to the division of furniture, then we can set up a day and time for you to come by to pick them up.
