Seriously girls! I can't tell you how many convos I've had to repeat to H or he tells me the same thing he told me a few hours/days ago. He can't keep all his stories straight and who he tells what!
It is a drug addiction, temporary high, thinking it makes them feel better, but it is not permanent.
In the early days of BD I would tell him "you can't understand right now you are on a drug". I don't do that anymore of course, but he would be like "what? I'm not on a drug". I would hold his chin and look into his eyes deeply and just look. You can tell by the eyes.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.