Staying dim seems to be working for you.
Having conversations other than R talk is ok.

Originally Posted By: JonF

It seems to me nothing will ever change until W walks in and says, "I'm ready to work on the marriage."

Yep, that's what i've read here. They have to want it first.

M35 XW34
D5 D4
M 6years T 10years
Bomb 5/2013
Joint Petition signed 6/2013
Moved out end of 8/2013
Court Hearing of Joint Petition 9/2013
D finalized in 3 months - no news yet