If W invites for coffee, etc, but there's no commitment to marriage is it useless? Is it the rule of accept some, but not all? I sorta feel like it's giving her cake and letting her eat it too. She gets to be buddies with me, and kids get to hang, so its like "Divorce ain't so bad!"
Dunno. Part of me really thinks after our hearing at 11:30, it needs to be very very dim. It would be good timing - outside of the little blip at the end, we had a great time just talking on Friday, she sought me out Friday night, Saturday night the kids had fun, and last night we hung out and watched TV and laughed and joked, kissed, etc. I'm honestly not surprised she wigged out a little and tried to act like it was all crap; I've seen that many times on here.
So now she really has something to compare - good times with us, and if I go permanently dim, what it will be like after divorce.
It seems to me nothing will ever change until W walks in and says, "I'm ready to work on the marriage." The question is does the dim help that, or the friendly conversations with no pressure? Or both?
