I'm here because I have a sexless marriage, the title of this thread. And I'm busting the divorce option.
Validation? No, I decide things on my own. I'm here to see what others have written and get opinions. STD's and HIV? No, with openess, honesty, and protection, your chances are probably better than the high percentage of marriages that have secret affairs.
It's not that she's unwilling to try. She has tried, and even tried therapy. But it has not made it fun for her. It seems the argument is always made that if a woman doesn't want sex, then she necessarily has not tried therapy. In other words, effort and therapy guarantee that a woman will want to have sex. Now, that's kind of absurd, isn't it?
I have discussed this with my wife for so many years that it became annoyingly repetitious. At some point, just more and more talk doesn't solve the problem.
She's in her late 50's, I'm in my early 60's.
What if I fall in love with the other person? Well, if that really happened, maybe I'd divorce and marry her? According to the advice given me here, that's the recommended outcome. But at this point, I don't think that's likely.
