Wowsers!!! AS my d(12) is not there yet but reading this gives me a role model to be when I get there. I think your W is definitely is a different person-----we are different every day. Not to get too philosophical....Facing death can cause our brains to do all kinds of crazy things...also the chemicals in her treatments might be making things change inside her...W always thinks I will be the gun toting dad when it comes to D(12)..this is a tough culture for women to grow up in...