W just went completely ballistic on me. I will try to explain this and would like any of your comments on this.
She does not know that I know about her and the OM, unless somehow she has figured out that I post on this site.
I came home from taking my D4 to the playground. S9 was at his friends house. She asked "whats my number". Meaning, what percentage of the marital assets do I want in order to leave and move out. I told her all along that I wanted what was "fair and equitable" whatever that turns out to be. She said I had better not fight her on the house or else it would all my fault if we lose the house.
She was emotionally heated and promptly left the house and presumably went to OM's house (mind reading). I asked her if she would be having dinner with us. She made no reply and just left.
I made dinner (popsicle chicken, D4s favorite at the moment)and was putting it on the table when D4 asked if she could call mommy. I dialed and gave her the phone. D4 wanted W to come home and have dinner with us.
W came home and sat down and had dinner with us. After dinner, S9 went outside to ride his bike. W began ranting about how much money I wanted to make me go away. I told her that I wasn't going to talk about the D in front of the kids. D4 was still in the room with us.
She continued to press the issue. I repeatedly said that I was not going to talk about it in front of the kids.
D4 eventually went outside to play with S9. That's when the yelling started. She demanded to know how much I wanted. I repeated that I still did not want to talk about it and left the conversation at, "I want whats fair and equitable". She asked how much that was and I said 50% of the marital assets.
That's when the real ranting began. She went off on me saying all sorts of vitriol and said that if she loses the house, it would be all my fault. I told her that she could stop us from losing the house but I cant. I said that she started the D and I was just along for the ride. I kept my composure and let it roll off my back. She said that I was a "loser" that I did not provide for my family. Same old stuff as usual.
I told her that I understand that she feels that way and that I was sorry that she felt that way. She then continued yelling on her way out of the house.
That was part of my day. Please let me know what you think.
Also, I pretty much knew that EA/PA was going on and I had some time to mentally prepare for it. It still p!sses me off though now that it is confirmed. What would you all do about OM, particularly him and his kids coming over to our home while I am not there? ( I travel for work a lot)
I would love to have a face to face with him and tell him where to go. I know that is frowned upon here. I also, would like to tell her that OM and his kids are not to come over to our house until the D is final.
