I am no expert and you must decide what is right in your heart. you also must realize how much power your intimacy has in your relationship. ML is more than an act, it is a time of emotional connection. Sure us guys have a strong physical need but when my W would withhold her intimacy I would feel devastated. It would rip me up on the inside. I would do anything to get rid of that hurt.
Hear me there, I would do anything... I am not advocating, ok I kind of am, you withhold your love but that you use those times to communicate your needs. Be voulnerable, when you are leading up to ML communicate that you need him to lay with you after, that you need him to hold your hand.
Try to get him to think about your needs that he may not be aware of, because he's a guy.... we are mostly clueless unless told... At least most of us
I am no expert but would be very cautious of the negative affects of not ML while he is in such turmoil.
Look up ReachingHigher's sitch. I know she reached a point where she truly fealt "used" (and was) and effectively communicated this with her H and stopped ML.
P.S. All this stinks but know that you do have control of your own attitude and have a choice (and control) each and every day of your decisions, hang in there.
I would rather feel pain then never feel at all... Separated 3/2012 T 34 yrs M 27 yrs
