Sounds like your friend had an instinct for DBing. My wife went to lunch today with her friend from work who also reconciled with her husband (but after 3 years! Yikes.) Not sure they knew anything about DBing. It was her story that gave my W the idea of stopping the D but staying separated.
But, I'd much rather she's at lunch with her, than her other friend in the office who is unhappy in her M and complains about it all the time. Or worse, with OM!
Sounds like you have the right idea. Time and space are powerful tools!
I konw what you mean MH! This "friend" that H has hooked up with has only recently separated from her last H, in the last year or so I think. I don't think she'll be giving him the right messages. The fact that she's a Christian as well bothers me as she's probably taking what she needs out of the bible for her own purposes. Anyway, I digress I'm so glad you've cheered up again K That friend of yours sounds good for you I think taking one day at a time is a good thing It's a pity everyone else around me likes to plan ahead, lol
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I'm missing my boys this early in The morning. I can't sleep I really hate it when they go over to their dads. My home is so empty when they are not here with me. I know that I should be happy that H wants to have them for the weekend but its still so hard not having them with me.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Sorry to hear you're feeling down and lonely K Is there a project that needs doing in the house that you can immerse yourself in to make the time go quicker? Can you rearrange the furniture in a room, do some decluttering or redecorate. Hope you feel better soon
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I feel a bit better my boys were at my mil so I got to stop by for a bit and I got to see my boys. My H had to work one of his side jobs and appeartly H will not leave my boys alone with OW. I'm so glad to hear that not sure what the story behind that and I really don't care just as long as my boys a happy. Anyway cant wait till tomorrow night they will be home.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
NQ & 180 yes I'm much better they will be home in about few minutes from school can't wait to see them. We were invited to go over to MIL house for dinner tonight so that's good I don't have to cook tonight. Oh I have good news I finally got the position that I wanted at work but I don't know if it will work out if H won't help out I start at 5:30am and I will be home every night and every weekend. Just need to have H here to help my youngest get on The school bus. We will see what happens next week
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I hope so too if not I don't know what I'm.going to do. I'll have to make sure H doesn't forget to come to the house for our 9 yr old. I had a talk with H about this position at work and he told me its a good opportunity for me to take it. And I told him that if I do take it I will need his help with The boys since I will start at 5:30 am instead of starting at 9am and he told me that he will help out with the boys. I really hope he keeps his word.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
I'm so glad you've cheered up again K 
Is there a project that needs doing in the house that you can immerse yourself in to make the time go quicker? Can you rearrange the furniture in a room, do some decluttering or redecorate. Hope you feel better soon