Geez, why can't your H one of those "normal" MLCers and choose his OW locally from the dispensing machine? I guess the Russian cockroaches weren't strong nor scary enough to set him straight!!
Oh yeah...I'm sure there'll be more revelations coming out from his mouth and ears.
RL!, Thanks for the update. Like Wonka, I wondered if you had been called upon to be the godmother of the new Prince.
I'm really sorry to hear that your eye isn't healing as quickly as it should be. I'm with the others. Don't let them touch the other eye until the the other heals well enough that you can at least see clearly!
Sounds like h's vacation wasn't the most pleasant vacation that one could hope to have. More like a working vacation and he even had to pay RT's mother to work for HER.
I wonder if he got to see any of the sights of Moscow other than RT's mother. I'm guessing that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. He's charged room and board by the mother of a woman who wants to marry a man, any man with American Citizenship so that she can immigrate to the U.S. and be financially supported by the "rich American". She finds out the rich American isn't rich after all and he is too sick to hold a full time job. Oh, and that the R.A.'s wife earns all of the money. Hmmmm, you h is NOT going to marry this woman nor is the relationship going to last for very long. For RT, it's all about the money and when she finds out that there isn't anything in it for her financially she'll move on to her next victim.
Take care of yourself and let us know how YOU are doing.
Me:57H:62 M:34T:35 2S,2D (grown nlah) BD:09/2012 visits M ow EA/PA?:10/2012 H moves out 06/2013
"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama
called to work to day - so good for that or i'd just be kicking around. hard to get out of bed this morning-knew i'd have to be there at 8:30 rather than 7:00 ta da.
hit the snooze three times- FIRST TIME ever in life i did that. woo hoo huh? IS THIS GAL????
KIDDING- was thinking of implications of getting up at 5 a.. m in winter- eeeeek. and i wonder why the hell i keep hanging in there- there's THAT for one. the ability to say no if i felt like it. ( i haven't so far- but who knows)
GOD - TI'S THAT DOPEY aquarian thing- the neeeeed to have "freedom" even tho i have nothing in particular to do with it.
as far as H - i sure wish i had your certainty... no kidding. i do believe my h may just remain whateverthehell he is til the day he dies. i don't know if i am going to be this jerk in the box in nj (hey- new toy - "jerk in the box" for rest of my life. i'm workin on the whole gal- i do in fact keep pretty busy and have some good friends & of course, working.
honestly it doesn't feel like "enough" to me. perhaps i'm spoiled from being the other half of a pair for my entire adult life- it sounds greedy to just want that to continue. it does happen to be more "fulfilling" feeling. i know EVERYONE IN THE UNIVERSE SAYS FIND HAPPINESS WITHIN. YEAH- i get it. BUT - there's also the living conditions of your life to be dealt with. it's more like that.
i could get used to an outhouse if i had no options- would i prefer it? i don't think so. i'd miss that darn bathroom for the rest of my life. I ALSO HATE COLD SHOWERS OR TEPID BATHS. COULD I exist with them, yeah. would i EVER EMBRACE IT- i DON'T THINK SO. it's like that for me i believe.
in life- i just miss having someone there in my home with me. i know in a sense it's my own fault because of the nj house being my big idea. at the time it seemed like a good one. allllllllll everything aside- i'd rather have a companion in life AND INDOOR PLUMBING toboot.
ya know what i mean???
i'm going about my life- i'm functioning - am i having FUN - I DON'T THINK SO. do i wake up and look forward to the day- well, i don't dread it like i used to. tht's got to be worth something.
will it EVER GO AWAY????? feeling like this- dull & just a bit not so happy in the background of my life all the time- idk. what the heck will happen- who knows.??
OY YEAH- here's wht i actually came to say- dumb as it all sounds (even to me) when ifound out about H - is wear it was the "hand of God" - turned on computer something blipped into my face- BY ITSELF - NO KIDDING..... th4e phone message i heard when i was there unplanned, etc.- same deal.
SO - THIS DARN ALARM ON RADIO_ IT'S ON h's side- he's not religious in any way shape or form. anyway- it turns on and whattyathink????? it's this christian radio station- i wake up other day to guy talking about r's and men & women's roles & outlooks, etc. i swear- i got listening laying in bed and this morning- hearing it again- same sort of stuff- life's trials, etc.- i'm TRULY WONDERING- another "message" from the great beyond?????
it's just pretty coincidental that i'm losing my faith in this man here- losin my faitn in general here- and ta da- in my head by accident i guess- i've never heart that radio on in my life- i just went to turn off alarm & pushed it accidentally to the radio on button.
i'm just sayin..... and ya wonder how the heck i go thru life waiting for something to "bonk me on the head" and show me the way. it's true. for 62 years things have just unfolded and "lead me" this way or that. if my ex h didn't drag my butt to FL because he was tired of working outside in winter (carpenter) in nj- i'd never have met this man. karma???
and so on- somehow things just seemed to fall in place. saying this kind of thing out loud - i know i must sound like a wacko- but i'm finding i still have one tiny kernel of faith inside that somehow whatever happens will be the right things and they will somehow become apparent and i will somehow do whatever it is that is "correct" and so on.
i can't even believe i lived my life like this. i've had a great life- i suppose last few years aside , if i croaked today i wouldn't have any giant regrets or feel i've missed a heck of alot. (tho it would stress out my neices who i'm petty darn sure love me- so wouldn't relaly WANT to.)
the more and more he's away from me- the more i feel my heart drifting away from him. don't know what i feel- don't almost (mostly) care anymore what he feels. last nite- knew he was with ow- didn't feel like my HEART was being cut out of my body- did homework with my neice til 9 - late for me- took a stinking sleeping pill. slept okay- no mind spinning around being "pissed". maybe i've gone over some giant HUMP and am coming down the other side.
of course- whatever that darn hump is, idk.
i think i've almost given up on the trying to sleeep thing- have taken a little over-the-counter sleeping pill last two nites- just need to sleep to function all day.
won't tonite-
SO HEY & I'M GLAD YOU'RE in yoru little holding pattern and sounding okay. i never expect anything GOOD anymore. if he's nice- i merely think he's going off the cheat like mad and it's making him happy to think about it. honestly- how pitiful sounding is that???? enjoy it all lllllll buddy. i honestly wonder if his brain can extend far enough to imagine his life without me in it? i don't think so- and i don't think he ever ever really thinks i'll be GONE someday.
oh well- neither did my ex h. EVERYONE arund here is always saying to me - "you'd never _______" , you'd never ____ boy, what goobers. like any of them truly khnow how i will act or react. i'm soooooooooooooo accomodating in life - to a point- and when it's crossed, there's no return for me.
don't get THERE OFTEN, but know inside about that ole line thing.
OH WELL- SORRY FOR RANT - NO EXTRA CHARGE. HOPe your eyes get calmed down and on the mend. you pooor kid. at least we're alive and healthy (mostly) and sane today-
we got that going for us. glad for the "horror" stories - what the heck HE IS DOING with rt I cannot fathom. h and ow either- this business of SAVING SOMEONE - WTF??? I'VE been criticized now or then with the ole THreat of not being "needy". wtf - how un needy can a girl be - me. no kidding.
soooooo- he admires my strength of character and throws me under the bus in favor of needy old cow ??????
yeah- makes sense to me- oh well - mlc (really?) one wonders.
off to see the wizard - kindergarten today- so should be entertaining i'd guess. bettter than those varmits at middle school anyway-
Hi RL. I’m glad you had a good time on your trip, even with the confused MLC friend. I wish you the fastest recovery with your eye.
From your description, it doesn’t sound like your H had the best time of his life in Moscow. I’m sure even if they had some nights together, it was not comfortable at all. These apartments are so small and not sound proof. I understand that he might have liked to be a repair man, but I think he expected a different kind of experience. I am sure that he actually appreciated what he has here. I don’t think he would like to live there for more than a month. I guess it just was not horrible enough for him to do the complete turn and become a normal H you knew.
On the other side, I would not be surprised if RT finds another confused American to come over and do the rest of the repairs and charge him $500 in rent.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
my prior comment about kindergarten- FORGET IT> LIKE being nibbled to death by 200 giant hungry pigeons.
i was exhausted- i'll take middle school or highschool any day. at least they leave after 40 minutes or so- then something new
keeping 25 little bouncing kids occupied & busy & ( HA ) QUIET is quite a laborious chore. i like kids- don't get me worng- but a ton of work-
and don't even get me started about he walls , board, entire roooom is one giant festival of posters, letters, words, JUNK alllllover the place. it's soooo ovisually overkill i can't imagine how these little guys even look at their page and do their work- there's just TOOOOO MUCH goingon around them all the time to even focus (w4ll- me- 60 AND finding it amazingly confusing and clutterie.
give ma giant old school rooms we had back in the day- walls plain excep6t for a painting of geo washington and lincoln- could see the blackboard and find space to write actually- (no kidding) couldn't find a blank spot to put my name!!!!
big windows - teacher at the front- kids in rows facing forward (god forb9t they have to actually look forward)
this business of round tables and kids in groups- personally i cannot imagine how it enhances the lerning experience to face someone else . they cannot resist interacting and tormenting each other - continually. AND NOISILY- who could resist ? i'm askin ya?????
i'm no6t seeing it (the purpose & value of groups - at all) (YET) but hoping anyway to become used to it. to me, crazy- .'
even with the older kids- they sure spoon-feed them soooo much - not even responsible to take their own notes in a class- how in the world will they leave and go to college? i wonder daily-
oh well again- what an amazing education it's becoming- IT'S SURE DIFFERENT AND INTERESTING.
It was a real experience (PRIMARY SCHOOL) - i'm hoping i get more clutter mineded and can shut it all out-
but still, it's kinda fun and interesting and certainly A NEW FRONTIER TO CONQUER- ONWARD & UPWARD.
i'm gonna be in command (ha!???) of every grade by the end of the year or die trying.....
Hi everyone, nice to hear from you! NotLikingThis, I agree with all you say -- RT will disappear when she learns there is nothing in the relationship for her. BUT if that has not happened yet, if H was able to keep the "rich American" pretense up in person for 30 days, I despair of her ever learning the truth. In fact, H says that RT has a lot more money than he does and bought a car for about $10,000 in cash. Does that sound like someone who needs to charge her boyfriend $500 to live in her flat with her and boink her for a month? I just don't get it at all. Maybe with MLC, there just isn't anything to get.
Wonka, H did not mention any cockroaches, maybe he just didn't notice them , but did say the place was a dump. He is mighty proud of all the repairs he made with slap dash methods and archaic tools.
Nero, yes, RT and her mom were mighty needy. H does not like any show of weakness or neediness in ME, but he enjoyed "saving" those two.
And Cadet I'm learning huh?
So H's saga continues. He had to go see the sights of Moscow alone. He was sort of expecting to see the free concerts RT bragged so much about, but she did not "get a chance" to take him to any. I know he was very disappointed that RT presented herself as being his "soul mate" as they love the exact same music, except oops, she did not know any of the songs he tried to share with her. Bright, you would know - are there free concerts in Moscow, or was this another one of RT's lies, like him being able to use their free health service to have his tooth extracted if he just came up with a bottle of vodka to bribe the dentist?
He says he was so disappointed in Red Square and the churches, but got his photo taken in front of them to prove he was there. I was not shown the photos. He said the people in Moscow are rude and rush everywhere, and push past you and yell at you. And it was dirty. He had been telling me what a wonderful modern city it is compared to New York, now he seems to be pretty let down.
Yesterday he was chatty and nice, today he is sullen and cold. I am wondering if RT is starting to push him again. She waited a couple of weeks after their last conjugal visit before she started demanding to know why he hadn't filed for divorce yet. H did not like Moscow much, and I don't think he would like to live there, but neither does RT, her goal is to live right here on Long Island. Preferably in my house Ain't happening RT!
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
RL, thanks for stopping by my thread. So your H paid a lot of money (tickets and rent) to do the repairs in RT’s apartment. Very expensive handyman, sure, he is proud of that, LOL. I don’t know about free concerts, except maybe the punk bands that gather somewhere in the city to perform. And even then there is mostly the young crowd that gets rowdy and out of control. There is always a heavy militia (police) presence at these events. A lot of drinking too. I don’t think your H would enjoy that much. I’m not sure what he expected to see in Red Square and churches. The most impressive part of it is history. He should have taken a city tour (which they have in English), then he would appreciated it more. As for the churches, they all are decorated with gold inside. Well, most of them. So this alone can be very impressive.
There are free dentist services, but I guess your H was not eligible as a foreigner, or maybe they figured that they could milk a “rich” American guy anyway.
And he is right, people in Moscow are rude. It is very busy and crowded city, so no wonder. Maybe RT’s flat is not in a nice part of the city also.
I’m thinking that the car money is all RT has. She probably even doesn’t have a bank account, and there is no equity in the apartment, if it is privatized at all. So, to her, your H is still a rich American. And I bet she still has no idea about his financial situation.
I guess his trip was disappointing in general, ha.
I would not be surprised if RT starts pushing your H again. This could explain his bad moods. It could not go for ever though. I’m thinking his relationship with her will start to get old pretty soon. Well, I will wait for the veterans and experts on this board to chime in on this.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
RL, I have a perfect plan. I have a useless contractor/handyman that I need to get rid of, and you know of a RT who seems to need one. Can we send her mine? Maybe they'll hit it off so well they'll be happy to stay there in the little apartment with her mom!
, but did say the place was a dump. He is mighty proud of all the repairs he made with slap dash methods and archaic tools. 