What if your spouse doesn't think they are in a MLC? My husband just found out this week that I feel like he's in an MLC and he is FURIOUS with me.
Hi Angela,
The first week after BD, I told my W she was in MLC. I didn't know at the time that this was a BIG mistake. Like your H, she denied it. She also laughed and said I was the one in crises.
My suggestion is to do like I did. Never bring up MLC again. If, like my W did, H brings it up, you have to make it into a positive, which it truly can and should be when all is said and done. A time of growth.
This period is a grand awakening for them. A time to analyze their entire life, and make any changes they feel are necessary. Listen to him. Let him know you understand him. If necessary, let him know he is free to leave the M! I had to do this and guess what? W is still here in our house more than a year and a half later.
Taking the pressure OFF, helps reduce their urge to RUN.
Give him space, but be there for him if he needs you. I hope this helps!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
