AnotherStander, I am catching up on a lot of different people and did have to chip in about how you handled your daughters sitch with regards to times etc. As a dad of two boys now 20 and 18, I kinda acted the same way as you - allow them some peace and identity/individualism and combine in with security for the parents. You did well on both counts.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.