Delaying the signing is just making her decision stronger. It is going to become a point of resentment. She might start feeling like a victim because you are being a doof by not agreeing.
MN is a no-fault state, too. I agreed to a joint dissolution because that is what she wanted to do. When her time table didn't coincide with mine, she accused me of delaying stuff... being a jerk... played that victim card. Oh boo hoo hoo.
I don't think any of us need to help our spouse do the heavy lifting but we just can't refuse to anything that will be required, either. Too many people try to control the situation by delay tactics. It doesn't work.
None of our spouses need our permission to get a divorce. I am not going to stand in the way of mine. She is on her journey and I can't lead her or show her a map. She needs to do it alone, just like your wife does.
Pulling out my tire tool... Dude, you make too many excuses and play down too many things. You were the one that chose to pick up that drink. By rote, you are accountable for your blackout and anything you did. The Big Book says so... "We may not be responsible but we will be held accountable".
You come across as a very selfish and controlling man to me.
This is a very telling statement... I'm still looking for insigh on if the process gets started in TX, how I could possibly delay to have enough time to reconnect with her as we are separated? That's why I'm avoiding the waiver of service conversation. What do I do to slow things down once the process is started in a no fault state? Would she have to drive the process?
You are trying to control something that you can not. You say that you are sober. Sober, to me, means acceptance and not just the absence of drinking. Being sober is far more than just that.
Well, I beat up on you enough for now. In the words of a very dear friend of mine... "Breathe. Have patience, grasshopper".
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
