My H finally found out what was causing his health problems but it will take time for him to get back to 100%. In the meantime he's been better about coming over to help w/ our newborn, but only stays for short periods of time (no longer stays overnight).
I almost backslid yesterday because I desperately wanted to ask where this is going and initiate a R conversation. On the one hand he's talking about Christmas plans with me and S but on the other hand he is spending less time here. It's hard to rebuild when he seems to be getting too comfortable being able to stop by and go back to his own place at night.
However I decided to take a nice long shower to think this through first before opening my mouth and I'm glad I decided not to say anything. We ended up having a really nice time together and H even made a nice dinner for me and my kids despite not being able to eat with us. I put my arm around him for a bit and he seemed to linger a bit after saying he had to go. He also offered to meet up w/ me at my parents house today. So despite not spending the time at my place he is still exhibiting a bunch of other positive signs that he's still moving closer not further.
Oh and he also offered me a bit of unprompted financial help. This is a huge deal as money has always been a sore subject. Bills from our S's delivery are starting to roll in so him offering to help w/ o me having to ask makes me really proud of him.
Case in point, I have to remember to dig deep for the patience I had when we weren't talking this summer. Things are going well and I just need to let them play themselves out rather than rushing them.
BD: Aug 2012 Separated since May 2013 S born Aug 2013 Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out' H is/was actively seeing someone?
