30yo, know that you are not alone in this life challenge and that you will find great support and love from the people at this site. I feel sort of akin to your sitch, although I don't have any proof of an OW.
I feel for you not having talked to your husband since May . . it's so difficult, isn't it, to deal with it when all through your marriage you talked with them every day sharing life's mediocre and spectacular moments.
Hopefully we will get through being moderated soon so we can get some feedback from the vets because all I can offer, since I'm new at this too, is an ear and understanding.
Me 59 H47 M12 T22 No kids BD&S Apr 2,2013 - ILYBINILWY Filed 2/12/14 OW 11/13 The Universe always strikes you at your weakest point because that’s what most needs strengthening." – Joseph Campbell