This time I am going to try to stay strong by not making contact before next Thursday. I don't think it can hurt me to do this but I am not sure it will help. Hopefully w will contact me before then.
I understand the idea that pursuing pushes our wayward spouses further away. This is definitely true if we are begging, using logic, or reaching out relentlessly without response. These are the kind of things we LBSs naturally feel like doing and it typically backfires.
On the other hand I have seen some have success by letting their WAS know that they intend stand up for the marriage and be there for the WAS in their time of need. But how to do this in my situation is not really clear to me.
For the past couple of months my w and I have been enjoying each other's company I have reached out to her about the same amount she has reached out to me.
Hopefully my w's actions will dictate to me what I should do. In the mean time I will come here for emotional support.
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
