I believe I just had a strange moment of clarity about the whole thing. It goes something like this:
There's no place to be angry with the MLCer b/c this is really just a stage of life for them that they were going to go through no matter what. They're not doing this on purpose to be vengeful even though we're often taking it this way. We need to have complete compassion for them no matter how difficult it is b/c they're actually teaching us about ourselves and how much we were overly dependent upon them pre-BD. Our dependence (even if it's a mis-perception on their part) burned them out and for whatever reason gave them this strong urge to run from us. The only way for us to really heal is to completely let go of the past over and over again and to start each day as a new beginning. This is the only way to true forgiveness and thus this is the only way reconciliation will ever be possible for our sitches. We need to prove that we won't hold any of this over their head when their journeys are finally complete.
ETC
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
