Your w seems to be sharing more and more detail about her nights out with her gf. That's good even if it is hard to listen to sometimes. Stop imagining what those loser bar bums are thinking about. Your wife isn't going to hook up with any of them anytime soon if ever. LOL She hasn't fully worked through the issues yet but it sounds like she is progressing along quite well. Redoing her room, as rH said, is more than just redecorating. It's a reflection of what is happening inside. Making changes and making her feel better and more in control of what is going on inside of herself.
Your gal activities are making my head spin. You are going to be one well rounded catch for your wife or if necessary the next Mrs. Fy. I wouldn't expect the later based on the progress that you w is making.
As a wise man on these this forum says, "Keep Busting"!
Me:57H:62 M:34T:35 2S,2D (grown nlah) BD:09/2012 visits M ow EA/PA?:10/2012 H moves out 06/2013
"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama