She seems happy with the way things are. She thinks the lengthy sexual ordeals I would like to have are too time consuming. She doesn't see the point in them. She has indicated that people should be free to have their own sexual styles, and I agree with that. My only problem is that she has also indicated that her "style" of sex that suits her at this stage is essentially for it to be sort of abstract.
From my point of view, it's not good in the long run to have sex with someone who doesn't want it. You eventually come to think of sex as always having negative emotions on the part of your partner and that you get through it only by focusing on your own arousal and orgasm.
Long kisses? Sure, as long as she feels they're not going to lead to sex.
Happy, well, understand the context. I'm not upset that kissing doesn't lead to sex. I expect that now and it's the norm. Kind of like you're happy to buy a lottery ticket, but you're not upset every time you don't win the $200 million jackpot.
