Harder and Harder......Part three

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Enrolled D3.5 in a childcare "Facility" today. I asked when she could start and they said Monday..........I said "perfect"

D3.5 was in the classroom for an hour while Mommy,Daddy and the Principal were talking business. There was concern that she was "a little young for pre-K" but when we came back she was glowing, smiling, making friends and helping another girl to make letters with Popsicle sticks.

Teacher said she would fit right in and couldnt believe only 3.5.

So, D3.5 is soooo excited about going to "Big girl School" and just because, I stopped and got a HUGE cake and balloons to bring to the old Daycare to celebrate D3.5's "Last day of School"- 2 weeks early

My wife and I are an AMAZING team. This incident is simply another example. When my wife and I were speaking with the "Principal" (trying to get D in) My wife would keep looking at me as she spoke with the P.

This is my disconnect- I still struggle with if she doesnt HATE me why would she leave me? I still have, in my head, that sep or divorce stems from hatred or being in a abusive relationship. Im learning that those are MY parameters.......not shared by her.

So I guess I just wasnt that fun anymore....I wasnt the "drug". I was holding her back...She wants a new model etc

a different definition of marriage.