and thanks. Yes, good point, a step at a time, and who knows what tomorrow may bring...
For the moment, getting some mutual respect and assertion into our relationship is where the action is at. Following that, given that I no longer choose to live without affection and physical contact, intimacy is the next frontier. The old relationship is dead; long live the new one, whatever it is.
L
Don't even think about the next step, just about this step. You don't know what the next step will be once you've taken this one, so it's a waste of energy and time to ponder it.
You don't need to worry about whether she respects you or not. What you need to worry about is if you are respectable. Do you see the difference? You could be the most respectable man in the world and she may still choose to not respect you. Is that then a failure? Of course not.
Your task is not to gain her respect, it is to command and deserve it. Whether or not she gives it is out of your control.
When you are working on you, as in this case, focus on your actions, not so much how others react to your actions.
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
